This is nice – The Day I Stopped Saying Hurry Up – but there are a couple of things that bother me about it. One, that she seems to accept being late. I always make an effort to be on time. I allow a little extra time for the unexpected and especially the for expected, like kids taking too long to get dressed. Perhaps I’m a bit OCD about this but there is no excuse for being habitually late. If you know it’s going to take you an hour to get ready to go somewhere don’t try to rush and get ready in 30 minutes.
The other thing is, while it’s wonderful to allow kids the time to explore, time to stop and look at bugs and dandelions, time to enjoy a treat slowly, it’s also important to teach them that sometimes you have to hurry. The solution is to allow plenty of time for them to just be kids but also insist that they not waste time when you are getting ready to go somewhere or when there is some other goal that must be met, such as, for example, getting the house cleaned before grandma arrives. Teach them that life has both slow time and hurry time.
It is true that we don’t stop and enjoy life enough and we start in too young forcing our kids into a “too busy” mindset. Allow time for play, both for your kids and yourself and if you can’t find the time you’re doing too much. Get a job that doesn’t require overtime or, if possible, quit your job and work from home; (I’m mainly talking to moms here) watch one less TV show a night;* limit your volunteer work, if any, to only one hour a week; give up jogging and just walk with your kids, at their pace; turn off your cell phone for a little while. You probably have more time than you think and you’ll never regret spending a little more of it with your kids. But kids do also need to learn the importance of being on time.
UPDATE: * or pick something appropriate that the kids like and watch it with them instead of sending them into the other room to watch “their” shows while you watch “your” shows.